- Approaching and talking to opposite sex (and it goes to women too).
- Standing up at work
- Larger things like starting a business, or doing something different
Some techniques... That work.
case scenario: What is worst that could happen if you leave your job and start a business? Your business will fail and find yourself fishing for a job. That's it. Ah! Wasn't that supposed to be scary? Our fears are actors hiding behind a fake devil mask. Worst case scenario thing is favorite of Tim Ferriss (of 4 hour work-week fame). This technique liberates fear of big (like travelling the world, or starting a business). So next time, you find yourself fearing a big change, ask: What is worst that could happen if I *insert dream here*?
Start small: If you're interested in approaching opposite sex (and you are), this technique could change your life. Going and starting a conversation with a guy you like could be stressful all in one go! We'll put a women scenario: You've got a guy at work (and of course, he's cute). And honestly, you're the one who doesn't talk much. Start by complementing. That's it. And not just him, every guy you like. As soon as you get comfortable take it from there. Then increase to complement + a question. Example: Nice shoes, where did you get them from? Because journey of thousand miles begins with a single step.
The deathbed mentality: Mark Twain had a beautiful quote. I'll put a part for your aid; it goes - You'll regret things you didn't do much more than the ones you did. Would you regret trying to open your company and failing? Or regret not trying at all? Of course the latter. Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple, took his best decisions after he knew cancer was to have the better of him. You too release some of your fears - by knowing you've nothing to lose. Or specifically, by asking: Would I regret trying and failing at x? Or regret not trying x at all?
So, that was our guide. And if you are any more interested in multiplying your joy (and dividing your fear), you might set upon a book - Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Not that I've read it, but if I was offered a dime every time it was recommended - I'd be a millionaire by now.